Annie’s Four Month UpdateAli On The Run
I’ve been a mother for 4 and a part months, and it’s formally amusing.
It’s nonetheless onerous on occasion. Definitely. I nonetheless don’t moderately know what I’m doing as a rule, and I nonetheless don’t depart my area with Annie just about up to I almost definitely must at this level. But she’s amusing and interactive and no longer moderately so fragile anymore.
BY THE NUMBERS
At her four-month checkup, Annie was once as much as 11 lbs. nine ounces.! Just about double her start weight! She moved from the 1.eighth percentile to the 6th for weight, so the pediatrician was once more than happy about that!
She’s nonetheless dressed in most commonly three-month-sized clothes. The zero–Three stuff is beginning to in point of fact have compatibility, however the Three-to-6-month stuff continues to be too giant. My peanut. And this week, she graduated from dimension 1 to dimension 2 diapers. (Still who prefer Huggies over all different manufacturers, even supposing the Honest Company ones are the prettiest.)
At her ultimate two appointments, the pediatrician heard a slight murmur, so she sought after us to look a pediatric heart specialist to get it looked at. I wasn’t frightened, which is more or less stunning, if you already know me. But we went to the heart specialist and Annie did nice with all of the assessments and tracking, and we’re all more than happy that she simply has a “musical murmur,” which is not any purpose for alarm. She’s simply musical! She’s were given rhythm! She’s were given muuuusic!
ON THE SLEEP FRONT
It’s just right. It’s been much better. I’m not sound asleep on Annie’s ground, and I’m making an attempt to be higher about no longer checking the [very bright, even when it’s dimmed] track each and every short while.
I’ve by no means specifically preferred speaking about sleep right here, as a result of within the earliest days, other people would repeatedly ask if Annie was once sound asleep (they nonetheless do), and when she wasn’t, it made me really feel like a failure of a guardian. Hearing about other people whose young children had been sound asleep 12 hours via 8 weeks made me cry. So whilst, sure, I’ve labored on getting Annie right into a regimen (extra on that during a sec), I wish to indicate that Annie being a relatively just right sleeper and napper now almost definitely has little or no to do with Brian or me. I believe we simply were given fortunate along with her.
Parents get praised for purchasing their youngsters to sleep in the course of the evening, and there are one thousand million books, categories, and internet sites devoted to educating us easy methods to make our tiny young children sleep. (“STTN” is most likely the most-used acronym in all of the mother teams and boards I practice at this time.) I discovered it to be very overwhelming and all-consuming, particularly in the ones early, sleep-deprived, tremendous hormonal days, weeks, and months. Now that we’re night time out a bit of, it sort of feels Annie is a beautiful first rate sleeper, and I believe that’s all her. Sure, I arrange little patterns and stuff, however I gained’t pat myself at the again for this one. If I used to be in a position to lend a hand set her up for “success,” nice! But who is aware of.
And after I say she’s a just right sleeper, I nonetheless don’t moderately suppose we’re the place different young children Annie’s age are. Some nights, Annie sleeps like a log, and different nights she sleeps like a toddler, which is extra fussy, tossing and turning, and flinging herself round within the crib. But she doesn’t require a middle-of-the-night feed, which is very large. She might toss and switch, however she doesn’t get hungry till round five AM, which could be very manageable.
The greatest factor: Annie can, for probably the most section, put her binkie again in via herself now. Most of the time. We tuck the Wubbanub gently into the highest of her swaddle (other people say no longer to try this; I say it stored us all), and if it falls out, she will be able to nearly at all times get it again in herself. That’s the most important factor, I believe!
AS FOR A ROUTINE
We have one! Annie has been doing so smartly on a agenda, each with reference to feeding, snoozing, and midnight sleep. So yeah, I assume I’m that mother who’s a bit of strict about stuff, but it surely approach Annie is prospering, so I roughly don’t care that individuals will suppose I’m loopy and uptight. (I imply, I’m no longer precisely operating a regime over right here, and there’s quite a lot of wiggle room in what’s “planned” vs. what occurs on occasion, however typically, it’s operating for us.) It’s great having some predictability, after which if Annie is fussy, I will be able to generally pinpoint why (i.e. she didn’t really feel like taking that 3rd nap of the day, which is sort of at all times the case!).
IN OTHER WORDS
Annie and I proceed to get to grasp each and every different, and at this time, we’re having a large number of amusing in combination. She’s very chatty and likes to babble, and I will be able to’t get sufficient of her humorous noises and expressions. If we are saying such things as “LOVE YOU” or “HELLO,” she tries in point of fact onerous to copy the sounds again to us, and on occasion it in reality sounds proper! She has flipped from entrance to again a host of instances, and from again to entrance as soon as (on Monday!). She has with regards to grown out of the Boppy Lounger, and she or he’s no longer moderately as obsessed along with her swing anymore. Her present favourite seats are the Bumbo and the Baby Bjorn bouncer. And the tub. Loves the tub.
She has began in point of fact grabbing onto issues, whether or not it’s my hair or the toys that hold from her ground mat, and loves spinning the toys at the Baby Bjorn.
This month, she additionally in point of fact began to note and be obsessive about Ellie. She makes a speciality of her closely on every occasion she’s within the room, she laughs and shrieks on every occasion Ellie walks close to her, and she or he loves when Ellie provides her kisses at the head. It’s my favourite factor.
ABOUT THE REFLUX STUFF
Note to self: I do have instincts, and I must accept as true with them. Since day one, I’ve concept Annie had some stage of reflux. She spits up a LOT, however as a result of she’s typically a “happy spitter,” the pediatrician mentioned it was once customary as a result of she’s “still a floppy baby.” (LOLLLLLL.) So I didn’t push it. But as time went on, feedings turned into so irritating. She would arch her again in ache, she would grunt, she would ceaselessly abandon the feeding altogether. It was once irritating for everybody, and seeing her in ache was once terrible. I think like I saved bringing it up, but it surely was once ceaselessly pushed aside. (And don’t get me incorrect, I like our pediatrician! I simply want I had advocated higher.) At her ultimate appointment, I introduced it up once more, and, yeah. The pediatrician agreed that it does, if truth be told, appear to be reflux. She steered began with Zantac and seeing how Annie does with that. It’s been a bit of higher the previous few days. Fingers crossed we’re proceeding on an upswing. Eating must be amusing!
HOW I’M DOING
BETTER. At least for now! I met with my midwife ultimate weekend and mentioned how I’ve been doing, and it was once just right. Helpful. Reassuring.
As of the previous day, I’m down to simply pumping two times an afternoon! Almost performed! Yay! Annie gets breastmilk for the primary 8 months of her existence. And then she gained’t, and we’ll all be simply wonderful! If I weren’t so anti-pollution, I’d no doubt punt my pump within the Hudson River once I’m performed with it. But I shouldn’t do this. Still, I’m having a PARTY when that is all dried up!
I’m additionally balding! Everyone warned me about postpartum baldness, and right here we’re! Right on the four-month mark, my hair began falling out in massive clumps. I’m repeatedly coated in strays. I worry for my bathe drain. (My hair falls out like this all over Crohn’s flares, too, so I’m no stranger to it, but it surely’s no doubt visual proper round my brow and hairline.)
But typically, after a couple of in point of fact just right days, if most effective on this second, I think just right. I in spite of everything really feel like a rather succesful mother.
That mentioned, I’m nonetheless making an attempt to determine what form of mother I’m and easy methods to do the whole lot I wish to do. I’m no longer a full-time live at domestic mother and I’m no longer a full-time operating mother. I do business from home, I’m freelance, and I paintings for myself. I’ve part-time lend a hand a couple of days every week, but it surely’s no longer sufficient for me so that you can installed full-time hours for my occupation. Some days, I think find it irresistible can be more uncomplicated to visit paintings at an workplace so I might be extra centered, however I additionally love being round and having some flexibility. I’m (strangely) no longer hanging power on myself to outline what, precisely, I’m — a stay-at-home mother, a work-from-home mother. Does it topic? Probably no longer. But I do have a lot of skilled objectives for the yr, and wish to have the opportunity to paintings towards them with out lacking a lot at domestic.
Is that imaginable? I assume we’ll in finding out!
I will be able to slightly keep in mind when Annie was once a tiny child slumbering on me all day lengthy. But to jog all our recollections, right here’s a glance again: